So, last night my computer was being really dumb and would log off of the Internet whenever it felt like it. It was obnoxious. So I read 3 articles, but I couldn't do this blog last night.
Number One: I read an article last night, and then my computer logged out of it, and now I can't find it.
But the whole article was about the psychological effects of rape on the victim and the rapist.
Rape victims typically blame themselves for the event that occurred. They say it was completely their fault and that they deserve what they got. I don't think the research that was done for this article was thorough enough. The "facts" were very generalized. What about the victim that knows they were raped and it was not their fault? I would be interested to learn the psychological facts about them.
And also, according to this article, the rapist gains a feeling of power from the rape and feels invincible. But what about the rapist who later regrets the decision to take advantage of someone sexually?
Number Two: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20081103-000001.html
This article is about abortion and the mental effects it has on the potential mother. I don't think this article is very accurate or thorough.
Of course your reaction depends on your temperament and the circumstances. Even I could have told you that. Because abortion is such a debated issue, more situations need to be evaluated.
What about the psychological effects of religion? If your religion is against abortion, then feelings of guilt are going to arise. But what if your not want of a baby seems to outweigh the effect of your religion on your life? Classic cognitive dissonance.
This author gives the illusion that her article has all the answers, but that is simply not true.
Number Three: http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/a/compassionate.htm
Love cannot be divided into the categories of compassionate and passionate. I know I'm only 17 and the man who wrote this article is a grown man with a PhD in Psychology, but how can you really research this and come to that conclusion? I have experienced love, and though I am young and probably considered inexperienced to most adults, I know this: love is so different for every person, and its different with the different partners that that person experiences. Of course there are such things as compassionate and passionate love, but those are not the only types. Love is so hard to define, and it frustrates me when someone thinks they have all the answers. Who is he to say that he knows so much more about it, just because he has the means to do research?
Hatfield defined passionate love as: "A state of intense longing for union with another. Passionate love is a complex functional whole including appraisals or appreciations, subjective feelings, expressions, patterned physiological processes, action tendencies, and instrumental behaviors. Reciprocated love (union with the other) is associated with fulfillment and ecstasy. Unrequited love (separation) with emptiness, anxiety, or despair" (Hatfield & Rapson, 1993, p. 5).
Can't compassionate love be defined as the state of intense longing for union with another, too?
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
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